Does My Marriage Show Love?
My husband works with the youth at our church. He loves this age group (where I'm more comfortable with the younger ones) and does a great job with gearing lessons to speak on their level. I loved sitting back and listening to his lesson for them last night. The other morning at church he was talking to some of the youth when I walked in to the sanctuary to tell him something. I was in the nursery that morning and we needed to touch base before I ran back. When we got home he kinda laughed and said, "So apparently I look at you different". I had no idea what he was talking about so he continued to explain what happened after I went back to the nursery. When I left, the teenage girls kinda sighed and said that they just loved the way he looked at me. He laughed and said, "she's my wife, I just looked at her" and their reply was "we know a lot of married couples and they don't look at each other the way you guys look at each other".
This struck me on a couple different levels. For one, I am so glad that even in our rush to get through the day with 3 kids and work and life and everything crazy, that people can see how much we love each other. Even if its when we are rushing around church trying to get kids to class and us to the rooms we need to be in. We have been married almost 10 years (and together 13) and we have taken great lengths to cherish and protect our marriage. To nurture it. I am not saying we don't have our disagreements, we are human and complete opposites and things come up that you don't always see eye to eye on, but we take the time to talk things out and we never go to bed mad. I know that sounds cliche but we really work at keeping our line of communication open.
The other thing that struck me is that these teenage girls are saying that they don't see many married couples look at each other like "that". When Glen told me that it made me sad in a way. What kind of example are we as adults setting for the youth of today? They watch and notice more then some people think. I know I want the youth at our church, and even our three young daughters, to see a thriving loving marriage when they look at us. I want them to know that marriage takes work but that even after being together 10 years you can still love each other. You don't have to just go through the motions. You can build a life WITH each other and not just live life along side each other. Because those are two completely different thing. You CAN be best friends with the one you married. That you can still get excited to go on a date and spend the day just the two of you.
I am so blessed to be married to my best friend. We meet our sophomore year of college. Looking back on pictures all I can think is, "we were babies"! We have grown together and learned together and have built a beautiful life together. Its far from perfect. And we have been through things that could have broke us. But every day we choose each other. We choose to love.
This struck me on a couple different levels. For one, I am so glad that even in our rush to get through the day with 3 kids and work and life and everything crazy, that people can see how much we love each other. Even if its when we are rushing around church trying to get kids to class and us to the rooms we need to be in. We have been married almost 10 years (and together 13) and we have taken great lengths to cherish and protect our marriage. To nurture it. I am not saying we don't have our disagreements, we are human and complete opposites and things come up that you don't always see eye to eye on, but we take the time to talk things out and we never go to bed mad. I know that sounds cliche but we really work at keeping our line of communication open.
The other thing that struck me is that these teenage girls are saying that they don't see many married couples look at each other like "that". When Glen told me that it made me sad in a way. What kind of example are we as adults setting for the youth of today? They watch and notice more then some people think. I know I want the youth at our church, and even our three young daughters, to see a thriving loving marriage when they look at us. I want them to know that marriage takes work but that even after being together 10 years you can still love each other. You don't have to just go through the motions. You can build a life WITH each other and not just live life along side each other. Because those are two completely different thing. You CAN be best friends with the one you married. That you can still get excited to go on a date and spend the day just the two of you.
I am so blessed to be married to my best friend. We meet our sophomore year of college. Looking back on pictures all I can think is, "we were babies"! We have grown together and learned together and have built a beautiful life together. Its far from perfect. And we have been through things that could have broke us. But every day we choose each other. We choose to love.
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