Love and Marriage: Overcoming Hard Times {Link Up}
I like this little series that I'm following over at Mix and Match Mama. I think its a good thing to be starting this blog out with so I'm going to continue with it. =)
Let me start out by saying that my husband is my absolute best friend. We have been together 10 years and married 7. I know its kinda cliche to say he's my best friend but its the only way I know how to describe it. I tell him everything. I talk to him about everything. He sees the best and worst of me and still loves me unconditionally.
In our 7 years of marriage we have had our share of hard times. We've went through 2 job losses, 2 moves, and a MASSIVE house renovation (which I think I will blog about one day soon). But I think our hardest time has come in the form of the obstacles that our oldest daughter has been faced with. Her story (while not life threatening, something we are forever grateful for) is very long, and complex and we have seen many specialist. In her 5 years of life she has seen an eye doctor, an ENT, a stomach specialist, a developmental psychologist, and a whole slew of therpaist (OT, PT, Speech). She has been put to sleep 6 times. She's had 2 eye surgeries (and MIGHT have to have one or two more in the future), she's had 3 sets of tubes (one set was placed during the eye surgery, gotta love when your doctors work together so you don't have to put the poor kiddo to sleep twice back to back), she got put to sleep for an ABR hearing test (which concluded that she had genetic hearing loss, 2 years later our kiddo has near perfect hearing and no hearing aids now (that's what my Savior can do!)), and she got put to sleep for an MRI (wanted to make sure she didn't have a brain tumor or anything else since she had eye and ear issues). She has also been test for apraxia (which she has), autism (which she does not), and a learning development (which is delayed but nothing major).
I never thought having a child with special needs would be my future. I don't think I would have handled all of this well if Glen wasn't my best friend. If I couldn't rely on him as a shoulder to cry on, an ear to listen, a hand to hold, or another voice to pray with our marriage could have easily have fallen apart (we have seen so many fall to pieces recently and it breaks my heart). But we don't give up on each other. Our marriage isn't perfect and neither are we but we serve a God who loves and forgives us when we aren't perfect and we extend the same grace to each other.
We make time for each other. We let our kiddos stay at their grandparents once a month and have a date night. We turn off the TV and just talk. We do almost everything together. We just love each other. I couldn't ask for anyone better to spend the rest of my life loving, laughing, dancing, fighting, forgiving, sharing, crying, praying, and living with.
Let me start out by saying that my husband is my absolute best friend. We have been together 10 years and married 7. I know its kinda cliche to say he's my best friend but its the only way I know how to describe it. I tell him everything. I talk to him about everything. He sees the best and worst of me and still loves me unconditionally.
In our 7 years of marriage we have had our share of hard times. We've went through 2 job losses, 2 moves, and a MASSIVE house renovation (which I think I will blog about one day soon). But I think our hardest time has come in the form of the obstacles that our oldest daughter has been faced with. Her story (while not life threatening, something we are forever grateful for) is very long, and complex and we have seen many specialist. In her 5 years of life she has seen an eye doctor, an ENT, a stomach specialist, a developmental psychologist, and a whole slew of therpaist (OT, PT, Speech). She has been put to sleep 6 times. She's had 2 eye surgeries (and MIGHT have to have one or two more in the future), she's had 3 sets of tubes (one set was placed during the eye surgery, gotta love when your doctors work together so you don't have to put the poor kiddo to sleep twice back to back), she got put to sleep for an ABR hearing test (which concluded that she had genetic hearing loss, 2 years later our kiddo has near perfect hearing and no hearing aids now (that's what my Savior can do!)), and she got put to sleep for an MRI (wanted to make sure she didn't have a brain tumor or anything else since she had eye and ear issues). She has also been test for apraxia (which she has), autism (which she does not), and a learning development (which is delayed but nothing major).
I never thought having a child with special needs would be my future. I don't think I would have handled all of this well if Glen wasn't my best friend. If I couldn't rely on him as a shoulder to cry on, an ear to listen, a hand to hold, or another voice to pray with our marriage could have easily have fallen apart (we have seen so many fall to pieces recently and it breaks my heart). But we don't give up on each other. Our marriage isn't perfect and neither are we but we serve a God who loves and forgives us when we aren't perfect and we extend the same grace to each other.
We make time for each other. We let our kiddos stay at their grandparents once a month and have a date night. We turn off the TV and just talk. We do almost everything together. We just love each other. I couldn't ask for anyone better to spend the rest of my life loving, laughing, dancing, fighting, forgiving, sharing, crying, praying, and living with.
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